The countdown is on. To Christmas. To Baby D. To figuring out how to be a work from home Mom of two with a new house she loves. I fear without a little direction my musings over the next few weeks could be more of a report. There are x number of days until Christmas. The following parts of my body are either leaking or aching. This is what I am afraid of today. And this is what I am excited about.
While that all sounds fabulously interesting I though I might use some of my favorite Christmas decorations and ornaments to tell the story of the 25 days leading up to Christmas. I can’t promise that I don’t sneak in a little “Here is a snowman, see his big fat ass, that reminds me my hip aches and my boobs are dripping” but I am gonna give it my all.
The year my father sold the house I grew up in my brother and I sat on the floor in the basement. One at a time we went through boxes of ornaments. One for me, one for Scott. Together we divided up our childhood, one we shared. I eagerly await the day he and Lauren (and Baby!!) return from Hawaii so we can share a Christmas together, our families. And so I can sneak a peek at the ornaments on his tree, the ones I have long since forgotten.
To kick things off, an all time favorite ornament. I love this picture. This is an ornament my mom made I’d guess 1982ish? Mom and I are wearing clown costumes she made for Halloween in 1981. Later the clown costumes were resurrected for the Clowntastic Event. The Clowntastic Event was an elementary school party rivaled only by the Wild Rumpus the following year.
I am reminded of being just about this age often lately. The other evening Em and I were laughing on the couch, about nothing. The same laughter that I share with no one else besides my mother. There is an easy laughter I share with her; there is nothing unsaid, nothing to question, just pure living in the moment. A moment that brings us both to tears laughing from time to time.
As a kid I thought that my mom did it all for me. That she was a Mother, and a Mother only. And as I lean back against the couch and laugh with Emily I wonder if Em has any idea what a genuinely good time I am having. I look at this picture of Mom and I in our clown suits and I wonder how it is that I didn’t see that smile. Not the smile on my face, but on hers. We had such a good time. We still do.
Someday Emily will realize that while I do love her madly it wasn’t always to put a smile on her face that I suggested we got out for a few, just us. Or snuggle on the couch and have a Ladies’ Night. I just like her. She cracks my shit up. Sometimes I hang out with her for me. I suppose I could just tell her. But that would ruin the whole Mother of the Year thing I have got going.
Looking at this succession of pictures, you can see it happen. How the daughter becomes the mother. In the first picture, there we are. Two distinct clowns. In the second, Mom’s hair bow becomes my tie. In the end her costume has become mine. But I am still wearing the same Raggedy Ann-esque wig from the very beginning. This is either an allegory for something very deep or it is much, much simpler. My mom and I are a couple of clowns.
25 days until Christmas Eve. And I’d guess about 25 more years before Em realizes she is turning in to me.
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Gotta tell you, even being somewhat removed from you, being one or two years behind you @ Robinson, and knowing your mom from tech rehearsals and strike parties, you and your mom give me a model of what I would love to be with my mom. Seriously. I have issues with my mom. There’s always some “advice” or “you could do this better”. I never felt like she just enjoyed me. It was always “was she/I doing it right?” You and your mom (You have the matching tattoos that we had to cover or copy for the French girls @ South Pacific, right?) are what I would love to have with my daughter, who is just about Em’s age. I recall going out to California Pizza Kitchen with her when she was 6 months old, one of our first girls’ nights out. Last night, we stayed up in bed as she told be about the computer games she was playing (yeah, they were Barbie, blech) but I loved her chattering away as she always does.
Anyway, you and your mom rock. And when Sammie is 16… or 18… I’d love it if we rocked matching tattoos. Her dad may not like it, but we’ll figure that out when we get there!
Kim, that is awesome to hear. My mom and I do have something special. :) Funny you mentioned our tattoos…. 20+ years ago now. By the time our girls are 18 a teeny tiny tattoo will be no different than an earring, But then, the SCANDAL!
I love this post more than I love the last post where I commented that I loved it. Ornaments are a big deal to me. Can not wait to see some more of yours :)
It’s gonna be fun. I don’t know how I am gonna pick only 25. :)
No one in the universe gets me like she does. No one cracks me up like she does. Most of what I do ‘for her’ is my best time. DAI once commented early on that the two of us were ‘self-fueling.’
There’s a reason that the advent calendar I gave Em is in the shape of a clown. Just passing it on.