As a child I wondered just how fast I could run if I was being chased by a monster. I believed, as many of us do, that if I was truly terrified I could probably run twice as fast as I normally did. I am sure you have heard stories of heroic efforts put forth by a mother, lifting a car to save her child. I hope I never find out if I am capable of such feats of strength. But after this morning I can tell you one thing for certain – I don’t swim very fast when I am petrified. In fact, panic seems to slow me down quite a bit.
I left my house a little before six this morning. Driving to Jordan Lake to participate in my first open water swim competition I was not particularly worried. I have been swimming more than usual as I attempt to get over a nasty case of tendonitis. I am a swimmer. I’ve always been a swimmer. I was never particularly fast but I swam on the swim team as a kid. I was a lifeguard well in to my early 20s. One mile. 36 laps in a 25 yard pool. The toughest part for me is keeping track of the number of laps. I am a swimmer.
We lined up on the concrete slab used for boats at Jordan Lake. I watched the swimmers heading in for the Big Deuce (the two mile swim.) I watched carefully. As far as I could tell it looked like the concrete went down almost to the end of the dock. I thought I was going to be okay.
I have two fears. Maybe more than two, but I have only two deep-down-in-my-bones fears. Mud and strangers touching me. I can’t recall the source of either fear. I was never tackled to the ground by an angry mob on a muddy field. I just don’t like the feeling of mud between my toes. When teenagers were swinging on rope swings and jumping in and out of creeks I abstained. No level of freedom made mud between my toes sound like a good idea. I stopped going in the creek when I stopped being able to keep my jellies on. And strangers touching me? That really doesn’t need an explanation, does it? I’m not big on hugging a casual friend. So elbow to elbow in an elevator or a crowded mall? I don’t like it. I just don’t enjoy the feeling.
The apparent lack of mud at the race’s start was all that was keeping this experience from being a perfect storm. There was no avoiding the groping that would take place as more than a hundred swimmers take off at once. And once we were swimming? There was bound to be a few moments when swimmers collided or a stray arm grazed my leg.
I was ready for that. The mud and the strangers.
I was totally and completely ill prepared for the panic, however. We were treading water at the starting line and counting down. Three. Two. One. Go! I put my head down and started to swim. I had avoided the mud and now I just needed to get past the arms and the hands and the strangers. I had planned to start slow and easy, conserve my breath. A stroke and a breath. Two strokes and a breath and … gasp. My heart was pounding. Light brown, murky water. That was all I could see. I lifted my head out of the water and looked towards the first buoy. Face back down in the water. Stroke and a breath. Stroke and stroke and a breath and …
Fuck. This. That’s what I thought as my feet drifted downward and I began to tread water. Beneath my goggles I felt my eyes fill with tears and I said out loud “I don’t like this.” And then I smiled.
Hours in to my labor with Lucy I told my doula “I don’t like this.” She laughed and said something to the effect of “It’s a little late to stop.” I wasn’t going to turn around. I was not going to swim back to the dock. Lifeguards helping me out of the water asking “Are you ok?” How would I respond? “Oh, I am fine. I just… umm… hate this. It’s … scary.”
I had identified the feeling. I was scared. Terrified, really. I hadn’t thought much about the fact that I wouldn’t be able to see anything. It was like swimming with my eyes closed. Even if I swam painfully slowly I would be finished in under 40 minutes. My slow and easy mile swim in a pool is about 31 minutes. Forty minutes max. I was in labor for hours and hours and I did not like that, either.
I needed a plan. Ten strokes of freestyle, five breast stroke as a reward. Fifteen strokes and five more. Twenty strokes and five strokes of breast stroke. Twenty five and then thirty. I never made it past thirty. At thirty my heart would pound in my chest and I’d be convinced I was going to swim off the side of the planet. And I’d start over again with ten strokes.
And so on and on it went. I would calm down. I’d sing songs in my head and count strokes and start to think “There’s another mile swim here in September, I know what to expect now and I think I’d be fine and….” gasp. The heart pounding fear would be back, like on a roller coaster when you think that there can’t possibly be ANOTHER death drop.
38 minutes. Well, 38 minutes and 13 seconds but who is counting. 9th in my age group of 16 competitors. 63rd out of 125 swimmers. Looking at the race stats the average time was 38:51.
Petrified and swimming breast stroke at least a third of the way, I held my own.
My heart has stopped racing. But I haven’t. I’m signing up for the one mile in September. I’d do the two mile, but I haven’t totally lost my mind.
There are not enough ways to scare the shit out of ourselves as adults. As children we get scared frequently. Sometimes we cry, sometimes we scream. But 75% of the time we catch our breath and cry out “Let’s do it again!”
And I need a reason to keep swimming.
In the last month I have iced and stretched and yoga’ed. I have been swimming a lot. A nasty case of tendonitis and bursitis in my hips has sidelined my running and cycling. And so I go to yoga and I swim and I walk and I try not to get angry with myself. Because anger has very little do with healing. But fear might. Because I feel better tonight than I have in weeks.
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The pictures you took of yourself are all great! And the story of your bravery! I swam across a lake in Hungary once and I also know I did not like it. But afterwards…! After you have done it: it is awesome!
Congratulations Kelly! Awesome!
xxx (no ooo = no hugs) :P
Ha ha! Wonderful write up. I like ows with all the old people who swim like mating salmon up waterfalls. Them old froggies can motor! Many moons of open water gasps await us.
Great job on a breast stroking 38!
I once finished a (horrible) obstacle course for this reason. I didn’t quite know how to say I wanted to quit without using the words scaredy-cat. Love this post. And love your perseverance.
You’re looking great!! :)
Thank you, thank you!!
Heh. Your “slow and easy mile swim in a pool i[n] about 31 minutes” is my “ohmigod I can’t believe I finished that quickly!” in open water. ;) Way to go!
Pool is so much easier, I hadn’t really wrapped my mind around it… Thanks, lady!!
I’m so proud of you. You’re one strong lady. And you gave a couple laughs in the telling. Way to go Kelly.
Awesome! I’m so glad to hear that you were able to persevere and that you’ll do it again! It will be easier! Great Job!
It WILL, right? It will!!
Awesome Kelly. That’s some great swimming!
I also remember that feeling in labour and saying, “I don’t like this” but what was I going to do? It reminds me of a story I’d heard of a women running
her first half marathon. She started to panic and wanted to stop. She thought about flagging down the medics who monitor the course. She thought about what she would say to them; she thought how it would sound when she would tell them she was tired and scared and wanted to stop. She realized this was pretty minor in terms of emergencies and kept going. It made me realize how much we can overcome.
Congrats on signing up again for more fun!
Thanks! And yep… funny that what keeps us going sometimes is imagining how absurd it would be to quit.
Wow – good for you for holding your own and keeping on through the terror and mud. I do not have a fear of mud, but that does not sound like an experience I would much enjoy. And you and your doula’s comments made while you were in labor made me laugh out loud! :-)
Happy to bring the laughs. It makes me chuckle because I have such a filthy mouth and yet that statement “I do not like this” is so benign… but apparently it is my go to remark.
I love the look of grim determination on your face. You say you were afraid but I swear it just looks like you’re planning your attack. Good on you for finishing Lady. You’re gonna totally rock the one-mile in September!!