The library in my parent’s bedroom was full of books, most of them hardbacks. Sometimes they were exactly what I was expecting. In the summer of 1984 I fell for Nancy Drew and I was never disappointed. Book after book, I enjoyed them all. Several years after that Agatha Christie was more my speed. I loved Christie’s Hercule Poirot (but I admit years later I love Albert Finney’s Poirot from the 70’s film Murder on the Orient Express even more.)
Year after year I found more books that I’d not yet read. I’d stand in front of the big built-in book case until something caught my eye. Sometimes the books I pulled down were not at all what I had expected or hoped they’d be.
I read The Reincarnation of Peter Proud and spent way too much thinking about reincarnation for an average ten year old.
I pulled Helter Skelter down thinking it would be about The Beatles and was none too interested in the Manson murders.
I was titillated upon finding Lady Chatterley’s Lover but soon discovered that the late night viewing of Bo Derek’s Bolero I was able to catch on “the blue channel” of “Super TV” at an often unsupervised friend’s house put it to shame. (I recognize that this is a heinously long run-on sentence but I am so pleased with my recollection of SuperTV and the memory that the dirty movies were in blue in the guide. I mean how many times could you watch The Golden Seal and On Golden Pond before you wondered what the “Blue channel” was all about? I think it is only too sad that I might be the only person on the planet that remembers this weird pre-cable TV movie box, but I do so fondly.)
I first met Andy Dufresne the summer after seventh grade. I tore through Christine that summer and then promptly read everything in the house that Stephen King had written. My heart ached for Carrie and then silently cheered for her. I remember remarkably little of any of The Bachman Books (aside from thinking I was far more clever than my fellow 12 year olds for reading them at all, since we had the copies that did not actually say “Written by Stephen King” on them.) I started and stopped both It and The Tommyknockers several times that summer. And then I stumbled across Different Seasons.
I was as charmed by King’s Gordie in The Body as I had been by Wil Wheaton’s in Stand By Me. But it was Andy from Rita Hayworth and Shawshank Redemption that stuck with me the longest. Years later when the movie came out I was moved all over again. I suppose an alternate title to this post could be “Things I Learned from Andy Dufresne.” My pal Andy also suggested that I ought to “Get busy living, or get busy dying.” He’s a smart cookie, that Andy.
Lately I have had little drive to sit down to write. And it’s not because I don’t have lots of Big Thoughts. Or Big Plans. I’m just busy. Busy living, I guess. And hoping.
MQD and I have been married now for one month. And in the last month I have allowed myself to eat great big scoops of Hope. And I’ve not dined on even a morsel of Fear. There is plenty to be Hopeful for, and certainly plenty to Fear. But for now I am trying to be mindful of Andy’s words. Often when I am asked for advice by a friend it comes back to the same thing, over and over. I always say “You just get this one life.”
I think that is what Andy meant when he said you’ve “got to get busy living, or get busy dying.” And not until I started thinking about it today did I see the parallels between hope/freedom/living and fear/prison/dying. I’d never thought of my countless “what if’s” and of my worries as a prison. But it’s true.
If I had to answer the “what is different since you got married?” question today, it would be the same as my answer to “What is different since you turned 35?” (Eerie, right, if I had not celebrated my 35th birthday on the last day of our honeymoon.)
I am not afraid.
There’s not much that Vic Chesnutt didn’t figure out in his short life. I have, to quote Jeremy, bought a pass to shake my ass at a zillion Widespread Panic shows. And at at least a third of them they played Let’s Get Down to Business. But I think I finally get it, Vic.
Let’s Get Down To Business shall we?
It’s time we stop playing stop playing games …
Let’s Get Down To Business shall we….
And tackle this what shackles us all of this pressing business. ~Vic Chesnutt
It’s fear that shackles most of us. And I am unafraid. I don’t know if it is getting married. Or turning 35. Or the big heaping bowls of Hope I’ve been eating. But I am not gonna ask too many questions.
We’d been married for one week, on this day, the morning of my thirty-fifth birthday. But it was May 10th I stopped being afraid.
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Fearless and flying without a next. Best way to not fuck it up! :)
BTW, that is some funky avatar they got for my signin.
As someone who lets fear completely rule her life I sure could learn a thing or two from you and Red.
And I hate horror, can’t stomach it. Different Seasons is the only book of his I’ve read. And I couldn’t even get through the old man Nazi story without chickening out. But The Body and Rita Hayworth and the Shawshank Redemption are some of my favorite stories of all time. I love that you love them, too.
Ha, I suppose one day I’ll stop being amazed by these weird moments, Nick…. but for now I will just think of you in a creepy Time Life commercial about the paranormal way… You do recall the commercial, right? “In Kansas a woman burns her hand… hundreds of miles away in Illinois her sister feels a burning sensation…”
Dude! I had to stop before i finished even reading the paragraph that made me yet again wonder at same brain so i could write this. No fooling – one of the documents open in Pages at this very moment is the outline of my reflections on Stephen King. I just finished audio booking Shawshank earlier today.
Smartass. I considered correcting myself after I’d written it… because yup, it was Red. But without Andy’s story to tell he’d never have said it.
And this, my friend, is why you were the very best roommate for my 19 year old self and continue to be held near and dear… My long rambling life epiphanies are met with movie trivia. xo
I thought it was Red who said that.