I was reading back through some of my gloomiest posts and it is interesting (perhaps only to me) to note that even though I am pregnant it seems I am down and blue damn near once ever 28 days. And if my “woe is me” can be tied to some kind of hormonal cycle than so can the rest of my hormone inspired thoughts and desires, right? Consequently making them a product of my chemical make up, fair game for discussion.
I am a firm believer that a romantic relationship with the person who is truly in your heart of hearts your best friend is a good idea. But you have to do the work to make sure that your romantic partner is equal parts best friend and lover, or you slide in to that scary territory of living with a roommate. There are lots of ways to accomplish this, I think. Lots of complicated, time consuming ways. Sexy posing on the bed in the “good” nightgown, not the 15 year old band t-shirt. Try not to bitch and moan about finances and cook a decent meal. Don’t change in to sweatpants as soon as you walk in the door. Shower with the door closed and shave your legs in private and maintain some kind of… what do they call that? mystery? Make an effort to make absolutely zero jokes related to bodily functions. But all of these ways rely on another party noticing you sending out these signals. Continue reading