I got lucky. I met a super boy that became a wonderful man and we got married. And then I got really lucky and all that worrying I did about being able to get pregnant turned out to be for nothing and we made a honeymoon baby.
So, wedding anniversaries tend to disappear in a mess of kids and baby and soccer practice and mother’s day and my birthday is next week, anyway.
But lately I have been thinking about how important it is to stop and take a breather and honor the marriage that the rest of my life hinges around. We’ve got a good thing. So, it seems easy. But a marriage needs to be fed. Nobody likes a hungry marriage.
Sunday afternoon, after my race, I asked MQD if he wanted to go out and grab a pitcher and some burgers at The Wooden Nickel and call it our Anniversary Dinner.
As evidenced by the sippy cup behind the pitcher, we had company. But she came home from our honeymoon with us, after all. It didn’t bother me to have her tag along on our Anniversary Dinner. We laughed and talked and we fed our marriage.
Nobody left hungry. Cheeseburger plus fried egg plus tater tots plus beers equals a happy marriage, FYI.
We’d planned on eating dinner at home last night. I would pick up cupcakes from Sugarland (they did our wedding cupcakes!) and MQD would grab sushi from a local place and we’d lay low. And then I got lucky again. The stars and the soccer and softball schedules aligned and my kids were invited to eat dinner with my nearest and dearest and her family. With the kids out of the picture I had to amp up the Wedding Anniversary Shenanigans. Quickly.
Wedding Dress plus Apron equals a sweet surprise. MQD called to let me know he’d picked up dinner and asked what I was up to. “Just playing with the kids and waiting for my husband like a pretty princess.” He thought I was kidding.
“When are you not just hanging around like a pretty princess?” I had mentioned wearing my wedding dress all day for our anniversary but evidently he didn’t think I would bother. He got out of his car and we met him on the porch as we often do, only I was a wee bit more glam than normal. I opted to switch up my greeting from my typical still sweaty in gym clothes “Dinner is almost ready, I am taking a shower” and went with a “You have ten minutes to change your clothes, kids are having dinner across the street. We are going out for a drink, home to eat cupcakes and we can have sushi after the kids go to bed?”
Three years and counting and he still rolls right along with my nonsense.
From our wedding vows (and Tom Robbins’ Still Life with Woodpecker)
“Love is the ultimate outlaw. It just won’t adhere to any rules. The most any of us can do is to sign on as its accomplice. Instead of vowing to honor and obey, maybe we should swear to aid and abet. That would mean that security is out of the question. The words “make” and “stay” become inappropriate. My love for you has no strings attached. I love you for free.”
Thank you, nice lady, for taking our picture in front of Mystery Brewing Company! And double thank you to the nut that asked us if we were going to prom when we ran into the store to grab beers on the way home.
Omg you look amazing in that dress! What a great dress – that after 3 years you can still wear it and it looks completely in fashion and like a great night on the town dress!! =D
And great on you for taking the opportunity to make it a great night!
Thank you thank you! It is such a fun dress. I have a fantasy of getting invited to a fancy shmancy party and having it dyed someday.
oooo! What color would you do?
One thing you didn’t mention – you still fit that wedding dress (and look fabulous too!)
Love it love it love it!! Will be in Chapel Hill tomorrow moving Savvy out of dorm and into her sublet apartment. What is happening??? She is not coming home. wahhhh! Maybe we can swing by to say hi! Love you!
Love it!!! I always either have a smile on my face after reading your blog or have tears streaming down my face. Today was a smile kind of day!
You never fail to brighten my day. And it is so great to see that through it all you continue to work at marriage.
Not only did we get married on the exact same day, but we used the exact same bakery for our wedding cake/cupcakes? Clearly, we have excellent taste.
Quite obviously! :) Their cakes are oh so tasty!
Love, love, love the wedding dress. You are looking hot!
You just filled my morning with joy, joy, joy! Happy lovely anniversary. (No one can take a selfie like you, gorgeous blog-a-mama.)
This is adorable. All of it. The pitcher of beer + snippy cup. The wedding dress + apron. The aid + abet. We also had kids in tow to celebrate our recent anniversary…we chose to get married and procreate, so why not have them celebrate with us?! Happy Anniversary!
I big puffy heart you guys. It makes me happy to see y’all happy. Happy anniversary to the both of you!
:) Thank you, thank you!!