Three is the atomic number of lithium. I looked that up to impress a boy.
It is also the number of years since the day I met that boy. On the first anniversary of the day we met I wrote him a letter, 365 reasons why I loved him. On the second anniversary I wrote him another letter, cleverly titled 365 more reasons.
365 More Reasons Even…. That’s 1,095 but who’s counting?
- You always eat the heels of the bread.
- You understand why I like to sit close to you on the couch.
- You really love my dog.
- You stayed up late so many nights and planned our wedding.
- You actually had a lot of opinions.
- You fucking love sharks.
- You like to plan the famly’s dinners.
- You go to the grocery store with a list.
- You call me on the way home from work to see if we need something.
- You almost always text me when you have arrived safely somewhere. And before you depart.
- You are brave.
- You make great banana bread.
- You have a pile of recipes jammed in a book that I am sure you know by heart.
- You really hate it when something goes bad in the fridge.
- If I saute some garlic in butter you think it is the best meal ever.
- You will love your t-shirt quilt when it is all finished.
- On this year, our third anniversary I am more than certain you will tear up while you read this. And that makes me smile.
- I think you work hard while you’re at work.
- Speaking of work, the pile of safety glasses in your car is adorable.
- You love my meatloaf.
- Even when there are carrots in it.
- You go out for ice cream after Em is in bed.
- I love it that you don’t particularly care that I am not wild about Cat. It makes me feel like if someone close to you said they didn’t like me you’d say “Oh, well too bad for you, I love her.”
- Either you changed a setting on your CGM or it doesn’t beep all night now or it just doesn’t wake me up anymore. I don’t care what it is. But I love you for not beeping like a robot all night.
- You agreed to go somewhere warm on our honeymoon.
- You didn’t mind that I read six books that week.
- You went for sushi on my birthday this year even though I know you weren’t very hungry.
- You dressed up as the White Rabbit for Halloween last year.
- And were so down with the family Halloween theme.
- You suggested we go ziplining this year.
- AND then you made it happen.
- You like to wear a suit.
- And you look pretty smokin’ in one.
- You made cookies with Emily last year at Christmas time.
- You teach her about the science of baking.
- You wore the Christmas family pajamas and let me take pictures.
- You look like Michael Weston in your sunglasses.
- You are so sappy.
- At the Whitley’s wedding when you introduced Em and I to people you looked so proud of us.
- You love the Science Experiment toy we got her as much as she does.
- You are really proud of Emily.
- Rumor has it you let her goof around for a bit on the playground when you pick her up from school.
- She loves this.
- You ask me if I read an article on a metal blog like you think I might say yes.
- You had a killer time on your metal cruise.
- But you acknowledged that you might be growing up.
- Get ready for the wedding related battery of reasons I adore you. First and foremost, you married me.
- You looked like a grown man and a little boy all at once that day.
- You really kissed me after our “I do.”
- You laughed with me during our ceremony.
- The reading you chose was so perfectly you.
- The playlist we put together of tunes was stellar.
- Whenever I play it you ask me to burn it to a disk for you.
- You danced with me like I was a princess.
- You included Em in our wedding day.
- But it was clear that it was our wedding, yours and mine.
- You are so open and warm and ready to love my wacky army of friends.
- You politely told our driver he was going the wrong way.
- You didn’t think it was absurd that I wanted to wear my wedding hat on the plane the next day. Or a few days later on our honeymoon.
- You might have thought it was absurd if you knew I had it on last night while I packed things at the old house.
- You know in your heart of hearts that I can’t thank you enough for our wedding day.
- You made my little girl wedding dream come true.
- And even if little boys don’t dream about weddings, I think it was your perfect day, too.
- You probably know that I will segue next in to some reasons that I love you that are baby related.
- You made me a baby.
- You held me while I cried and told me that if I couldn’t get pregnant it was okay.
- And when we got pregnant in about four minutes you didn’t say “See, what was all that cryin’ about?”
- You are reading books about babies and labor.
- You looked so excited when you told your friends.
- You were tearing up when we told Emily.
- The day you heard the heartbeat … that day was so special to me.
- You really want this baby.
- You try and tell me not to worry. And for the most part you don’t make me feel like a nut for worrying anyway.
- You are down with the family bed, no questions asked.
- You don’t challenge my infant parenting ideas, telling me that Em turned out great so we should keep it up.
- Whenever someone mentions my appearance, referring to my pregnancy you say “I think she looks great” and you smile and it melts me.
- This pregnancy has made you softer.
- I can’t imagine what this baby is gonna do.
- You embraced the idea of the birthing center.
- Your eyes do not visibly glaze over when I jabber on about breastfeeding.
- Your eyes do glaze over when I jabber on about many other things. But you’re still there. In the room.
- You giggle at night with me in bed.
- You love scary movies.
- You stay up all night watching netflix movies like a kid.
- Sometimes I think you sleep on the couch on purpose. And that’s okay.
- It never makes me wonder if you’re mad at me.
- And that is probably a good sign.
- Em says you like to sit on the couch but Mom likes to lie down.
- I know you just give us all the room.
- You leave your keys attached to your pants usually at night.
- You are really serious about teeth brushing.
- You resumed the eating of carbs. Bless your heart.
- Your pre-honeymoon suit shopping extravaganza was adorable.
- You’ll try on something if I say I really like it.
- Speaking of shopping! The honeymoon night we had cocktails for dinner and shopped was so fun.
- You’d smile and say “Then get it. Let’s just get it!” at everything we looked at.
- You watch the Peanuts holiday specials with me.
- And you pretend I watch them for Emily.
- I think I told you in the last two lists how much I love your family, but I do. More and more.
- Your parents.
- Aislinn.
- Nana. They all deserve their own number.
- When we went to Boston this year and I was sleepy the night we went out to see your friends you didn’t mind that I went home early.
- You are loving your Pregnancy Sobriety.
- And not just because it saves us a small fortune.
- You love rituals.
- You always lock the doors.
- You can be so hot tempered.
- You respect the women that you work with.
- You have embraced your checkered Vans.
- I might as well throw out the 2011 “You have a great ass.” It didn’t make the first 100 this year. But not because I find it any less stunning.
- You laugh it off when you destroy your electronics in water.
- You really could give up your iphone.
- You listened to Howie Mandel with me that day instead of reading your book.
- You can chit chat or ride in silence in the car.
- I hate the way you drive, but I do feel safe.
- Oh! Speaking of safe, your safety glasses on the 4th of July.
- You are the cutest dad.
- A little rain won’t slow you down.
- You truly appreciated your Alien birthday party.
- You still hug me when I make you food.
- You were so strong for me at my grandparent’s.
- You held my grandfather’s hand for a moment when you met him.
- Since you were the only one in the room that was not in denial you probably knew you’d not see him again.
- But you never for a moment made that known.
- You looked after Em that weekend almost exclusively so I could be there for my mom.
- You smiled sheepishly when my grandmother said you were cute right in front of you.
- You drove the golf cart. And let me take pictures.
- You understand why family is such a high priority.
- You make an excellent grilled cheese.
- You let Emily’s father visit her in our home.
- Even though he is my ex-husband.
- You let my old friend Jeremy visit me in our home.
- Even though he is my ex-husband.
- You are gracious.
- You are growing more patient with each year.
- You taught Em to tie her shoes.
- You almost never forget to kiss me goodnight.
- You looked really excited to see Summer after she was born.
- To see you hold a newborn for the second time, you looked more confident that when Gia was born.
- I could see you mentally imagining our future.
- You remind me of concerts I want to see.
- You bought the family tickets to the Trans Siberian Orchestra at Christmastime! AWESOME idea.
- I think you actually like Panic now.
- I know you actually like the McMullens.
- You didn’t think it was crazy when I suggested we look at the house across the street from them.
- You are cautious but fearless when it is time to make a move.
- You like a more rural life. Even though you are a city kid.
- Our house… our home. You made it happen.
- Next year’s list will be filled with moments that I loved you in our home. Where we will stay. And have a family.
- You and the damn sweaters in the summer. They crack me up.
- Our tattoos!! How did I leave them out? I love ’em!
- You made Em’s birthday special for her.
- Your family has traditions you pass on to her.
- The ladies at the pre-school always made me feel so lucky to have found you, and they were right.
- You are trying to download every song ever recorded.
- You went to Ikea with me.
- Twice.
- You care about things in the house.
- Much like our wedding I think our home will reflect who we are.
- You think it is hilarious when you stab me with your toenails.
- You took the kids to the corn maze and let me stay home.
- You’re much better at parental chitchat with other parents than I am.
- You are taller than me.
- Your love affair with your overcoat still makes me swoon.
- You can’t stand how I fast forward past the end of a commercial break.
- But you still let me hold the remote.
- The way you laugh at Tosh.0 is contagious.
- Sometimes you mumble when you sleep.
- You snuggle my Snoopy when you think I am not looking.
- You don’t ever seem nervous.
- My 35th birthday is one I will never forget.
- You let it go now when I hurt your feelings.
- So, I think you know I don’t mean to be hurtful.
- You’ve told me in this next year you’ll help me be more mindful of you. And I hope you do.
- When I finally pull my head out of my ass and I am ready to talk about somethign that is hard, you listen.
- You love a good fart joke.
- Or even a bad fart joke.
- You are consistent.
- You are proud and not boastful.
- You are teaching me not to care so much about dumb shit.
- You don’t mind when I read in bed.
- Your notecards… I don’t know what it is about our notecards but they make me smile.
- You were stoked to scan your documents.
- You are so responsible.
- You take the trash can out.
- And you pull the trash can back from the curb.
- You are generous.
- Your hair is really soft.
- I can recognize you from the back of your head from a hundred yards away.
- You got rid of the vest.
- You are tolerant.
- You laugh at our Date Nights.
- But you love them.
- You hug me when I need it.
- And when I don’t.
- The way you grab my hands and wrap them around you makes me cry.
- You make me crazy.
- You don’t mind that I blab about my life which is really our life on the interwebz.
- You don’t have a lot of secrets.
- But you’ll take the ones you have to your grave.
- You never make fun of me when I haven’t seen an internet meme before.
- You Google Buzz.
- You and maybe twelve other people world wide.
- You play clacker with Emily.
- You’ll sit with her at the table for hours.
- You are and will forever be my last first date.
- You love a Family Guy hug.
- I think we have two pretty good baby names.
- It was your idea not to find out the gender. And while it is maddening, I love it.
- You think baby D is a girl.
- And you are fine either way.
- You unpacked your clothes at the new house and you have only one un-matching sock.
- And you rarely match them. You are amazing.
- You don’t pretend to feel baby moving when you can’t.
- You don’t seem appalled by adoration of my new wig.
- When I said I might cut of all my hair you said “Do it.”
- You really don’t care about a lot of things if it makes me happy.
- You never make the bed. And for reasons I can not fathom this does not annoy me. So it must be Love.
- You are not bothered by my glowing phone in bed at 6 am.
- You don’t question why I reconcile my checking account every morning before I get out of bed.
- Your as tolerant of my neurosis as I am of yours.
- You still make me nervous.
- You fund your retirement account.
- You take saving money seriously.
- You sent me that Hitler Metallica video and it was super funny.
- You talk to Fisher.
- In his language.
- You will totally have full conversations with the baby.
- You smell good.
- Even when you’re sweaty.
- I can’t imagine a situation where you would want to go to a karaoke bar.
- You bought Em flowers on her birthday.
- You write cute things in cards.
- You make an x over the i in Mike sometimes.
- You encourage me.
- You love to scare the hell out of Em.
- You’re not disgusted by Fish’s slimey fox or his Snoopy.
- You probably wouldn’t be upset if your list was late this year.
- But I knwo you’d notice if you didn’t get one.
- I am sure that I have repeats this year, but I am blaming Baby D.
- When you ask em “What can I do?” you mean it.
- Which is awesome because if I say “Go to the store and get me an XYZ” you go.
- And I am learning that if I say “Nothing, I can do it myself” I have no one to blame but me if you let me do so.
- You are everything to me.
- But you have me convinced I could survive without you.
- I think we’ll be married forever.
- I think about that song “Book of Love” a lot. Abotu the video of the old people holding hands.
- I can’t WAIT to see you mow the grass in your tube socks.
- You might not have noticed, but your out loud bedtime reading voice is much more confident now.
- When I hear you two giggle in her room it melts me.
- You got your car repaired.
- You told me you’d be in charge of my oil changes.
- You notice when I get a new sticker on my car.
- You will totally wear a baby.
- And it will totally make me want to smooch you.
- You will probably be more worried than I am about things like sunscreen and bugs and “did we bring an extra…” and it will be cute.
- Your man purse will be packed with baby crap.
- And you will take it everywhere.
- When we go places you’ll say “I’ll hold him/her” so I can finish eating.
- I will be on the couch with the baby, in tears, in my pajamas some day when you get home from work. Tearfully I will say “I don’t have dinner ready.” And you will probably kiss me and see if I want take out from somewhere you don’t even like.
- You’re thoughtful like that. When it matters most.
- You are not a cuddler while you sleep. But you don’t mind it when I scoot over on your side.
- You know all the planets.
- And how microwaves work.
- And a lot of other SCIENCE!
- You watch cartoons with Em.
- When we let you “sleep in” you still get up and hang out with us.
- I think you might actually get me a leaf blower for Christmas.
- And not as a joke.
- You know my feet reek. But you don’t bring it up too awful often.
- You check your temperature when you don’t feel well.
- You ask me fora doo-dad sometimes.
- You are understanding of my total inability to articulate a thought lately.
- When I need to just got to bed at 7 you take over.
- When you brush Emily’s hair I can see how much you love her.
- When I am scared at night and yiy’re asleep I sneak up next to you and hold on tight.
- Sometimes you say “shhh shhh” in your sleep the same way you say it to Emily when she is crying.
- You smile when I get excited when I get new lasses in the mail.
- You seem to marginally understand my shoe obsession.
- You love me.
- You like me.
- You know the difference.
- You are funny and charming when we go out with people we don’t know well.
- Your shoes are never untied.
- You have a shoe polish holder.
- You are committed.
- You never seem to wonder if we’ll make it.
I owe you 77 more. It has been one hell of a week, the icing on the cake for the last year. I can’t imagine a more life changing time than the last year. Filled with joy. We made a marriage and a family. And a baby. And now we are making a home. I love you, Michael Quinn Doherty.
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“…its the magic number…”
seems like alot of magic is circling your clan these days. very good, very good indeed.